Relent

Tentative-walking a fine line here. Troubled by years of interacting with someone who is Gospel hardened, a friend who might no longer see me as a friend.
Insecure people stand out like flashing neon signs on a dark night. An insecure Christian may swear
that he or she is fine, doing fine. Everything's fine. No problems here. Couldn't be better!
And those of us who know the symptoms and the signs shake our heads.
Here are a few signs:
1. A controlling personality.
    Someone who is insecure can work themselves to death trying to 'keep it all together', control all
situations; when confronted by something or someone they can't control, the controlling person gets nervous, feels threatened, uncomfortable.
2. Heavy lifting.
   An insecure person never is able to get over the feeling that they don't measure up, that they have to do twice as much, lift heavier burdens, take on more duties than everyone else. They generally only live to be overworked.
   Some others happily take advantage of an insecure person's 'need to do more'.
   It also becomes a self-fulfilling flagellation, feeding into the insecure person's belief that they
have to do everything or it won't get done. And they are just the martyr chosen to do it.
3. Perfection mask
   This one ranges far afield-it isn't a singular sign of the insecure, but they might have the market cornered.
Someone holding up the perfection mask is very careful not to make any serious mistakes; they fear being humbled, their poor self image demands that they never allow themselves to be seen as wrong.

I'm going to stop there for now.